First Dates: seven surprising first date faux pas

Don’t be rude. Be on time. Don’t mention the ex. We all know the common dating commandments – but they aren’t the only first date faux-pas.

A new study carried out by EliteSingles of 3500 of its members has revealed some surprising first date slip-ups!

1. Taking pictures of your meal
Bad news for fans of the Hefe filter: taking photos of your food is definitely off-putting. In fact it’s considered even worse than common dating deal-breakers like dressing inappropriately!

2. Getting out your selfie stick during dinner
It might be an idea to put away your camera altogether as mid-date selfies are also a no-no. Indeed, hated by almost 1 in 5 singles, they’re an even bigger first date sin than being late or being a bad kisser.

3. Listening politely to your date’s stories
Most experts agree that listening to someone intently isn’t just polite; it’s attractive. But, during a first date, that rule goes out the window. Around 70% of singles would prefer their date to be someone who talks too much instead of a quiet soul who simply listens.

4. Wearing too much jewellery

85% of singles want a casual first date. Maybe that’s why wearing ornate jewellery is considered even more of a first date fashion faux pas than turning up in active wear!

5. Adding your date on Facebook
You should wait before sending that friend request: over 20% of singles would be put off of a second date with someone who immediately added them on social media.

6. Being a bad kisser

If you want to know if they love you so, it’s in their kiss – right? Wrong. Less than 5% of singles think that the quality of a kiss matters on the first date. In fact, as deal-breakers go, bad kissing is one of the most minor!

7. Should I stay or should I go now: how to get out of a bad date

So, what’s the most common way to ditch a bad date? Unlike what you see in the movies, it’s not via a faked emergency or sudden imaginary illness. Instead, more than 50% of singles would opt to simply tell the truth to their date – no matter how harsh that truth might be.

Advice
EliteSingles psychologist, Salama Marine, has these words of wisdom for anyone needing to leave a date early:
“You shouldn’t have to stay on an awkward date for hours with a stranger if you don’t want to. But it is important to choose your words carefully. You need to show your date that you do respect them and consider them an equal, despite not feeling romantically attracted to them.

'There’s no need to be unnecessarily hurtful or mean; you simply need to explain that you cannot picture yourself romantically with them and that you feel your personalities aren’t matched.’’